So, in this article we will speak about The Law of Marriage: Bible about Divorces and Cheating
God gave people the so-called law of marriage in which He defined the rights of husband and wife:
- Wives must obey their husbands:
1 You also, wives, obey your husbands, so that those of them who do not obey the word may be gained by the living of their wives without the word,
2 When they see your pure, God-fearing living. (1 Peter 3:1,2);
- Wives are bound to their husbands by the law of marriage until the death of the husband, the marriage being consummated forever:
2 A married woman is bound by the law to her living husband; and if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.
3 Therefore if she marries another man while her husband is alive, she is called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress when she marries another man. (Rom. 7:2,3),
39 “A woman is bound by the law as long as her husband lives, but if her husband dies, she is free to marry whom she pleases, only in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 7:39);
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- Divorce does not please the Lord:
7 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother
8 And he shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two but one flesh.
9 “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. (Mar.10:7-9),
32 But I tell you, whoever divorces his wife, except for the guilt of adultery, causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. (Matt.5:32),
That is, he sows temptation to commit adultery in the heart of his wife with whom he is divorced. And seduction, according to Scripture, is a terrible sin:
7 “Woe to the world because of seductions, for seductions must come; but woe to the man through whom seduction comes. (Matt.18:7).
Unfortunately, life is more complicated than common definitions. People break God’s law, fornicate, divorce, marry, commit adultery, forgive and not forgive each other for adultery (adultery), have many wives, live together and apart, and so on. And when they try to figure out how to behave Biblically after all that has happened, they need guidance from God’s Word on every issue.
Let’s look at the most common questions.
Is it even okay to get a divorce and when is it okay?
As discussed above, it does not please God to divorce. And yet, in the Gospel we read Christ’s words about when divorce is possible:
32 But I tell you, whoever divorces his wife, except for the cause of sexual immorality, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. (Matt. 5:32).
As we can see, there is no fault on the divorcer of the occasion or temptation to commit adultery, as discussed above, if the opposite party has a fault of adultery.
In this connection, consider whether it is permissible to divorce if the husband or wife is found guilty of the sin of adultery, as it is set forth in the gospel:
27 You have heard that it was said to the ancients, “You shall not commit adultery.
28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matt. 5:27,28),
In this case, the wife or husband will have to prove to the church the reason for the divorce. After all, God’s word does not authorize divorce, as mentioned above. And also the word of God obligates us to forgive our neighbors, especially our brothers and sisters, especially our husbands and wives, if they ask for forgiveness:
3 Observe for yourselves. But if your brother sins against you, tell him off; and if he repents, forgive him;
4 And if he sins against you seven times a day, and turns seven times a day, and says, ‘I repent,’ forgive him. (Luk.17:3,4).
And with the Lord’s Prayer, we ourselves ask the Lord to forgive us as we forgive ourselves:
12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors; (Matt.6:12).
From this we can conclude that only if a husband or wife has fallen into the sin of adultery and does not want to repent, meets other men or women, has sexual relations with them, not if the husband or wife has stumbled, but has asked forgiveness or if the husband or wife feels that their wife or husband is looking at someone with lust, can divorce be considered.